Jolted Part 1

I started reading a book about bitterness today, mostly out of necessity. I have reached the point where I am actually searching for things to be bitter about. It started out innocent enough. Grave sins were committed agains my family and me, and I truly thought I could respond with righteous anger. I just didn't think it would take so long to get over it, and that other things would accumulate after that. 

Jim Wilson, the author of this book, doesn't let me off easy either. In his first essay, he points out that to be bitter is a sin, no matter how you justify it. Wow. That's put a crick in my day. As I was in the midst of reading his points, I kept trying to justify myself and he left no way out. Thank you Jim Wilson. 

The first thing I need to grasp from his essay was the verse he began with: 

"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you. Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God." ~Ephesians 4:31-5:2

This verse is very heavy. Who can go against the command of God? And who can not obey this, when God could have been bitter towards all humanity for murdering His only son? There are many questions I have that stem from this verse, but for today, I think it is best that I simply soak it in. 

Wilson goes on to say that a characteristic of bitterness is remembering details. Alright, I do that. A lot. I remember every wrong and probably even come up with imaginary wrongs. And I am a girl a Norther girl, naturally analytical. Great. 

Wilson in this section first identifies whether or not you have bitterness, and then explains that one must dig up the root, otherwise it'll sit inside and deteriorate the body, or the person will tell everyone, causing other people to be bitter and then in sin. I've already told a lot of people about my bitterness, and I've also let it steep inside me. Wilson says it doesn't matter the size of the offense, the bitterness is the same. He also says that bitterness often springs from relationships closest to us. 

His final point is that we often don't recognize our own bitterness or justify anger and bitterness because it is someone else's sin. Sure the other person sinned. But if they don't ever apologize and you hate them forever after is that their sin or yours? That is painful and scary to hear. 

In the study guide for the book, he asks a key question to lead off a study and overcoming of bitterness: What does God require us to do with all our bitterness? 

His answer is found in James 3:14-15, that we are not to boast about it or deny the truth. The key to overcoming bitterness is repentance. May God give me the ability to repent of my bitterness and move forward in the journey to overcoming it. 

"For a cup brimful of sweet water

 cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, 

however suddenly jolted."

~Amy Carmichael

On Friendship

Friendship may be defined as a complete identity of feeling about all things in heaven and earth: an identity which is strengthened by mutual goodwill and affection. With the single exception of wisdom, I am inclined to regard it as the greatest of all gifts the gods have bestowed upon mankind. Some people, I know, give preference to riches, or good health, or power, or public honours. And many rank sensuous pleasures highest of all. But feelings of that kind are something any animal can experience; and the other items in that list, too, are throughly transient and uncertain. They do not hang on our own decisions at all, but are entirely at the mercy of fickle chance. Another school of thought believes that the supreme blessing is moral goodness; and this is the right view. Moreover, this is the quality to which friendship owes its entire origin and character. Without goodness, it cannot even exist. 

I began reading Cicero's On Friendship today, and was surprised at how simple and beautiful his thoughts on friendship are. The main character of the story, Laelius, in his old age, has just thought his dear friend Africanus, and is relating to his relatives, what his friendship with Africanus was, and why he is grieving differently than most people would. His grief is deep, but not overwhelming because of the strong bond between him and Africanus, and because they have had a full life together. Then he begins to tell what friendship is birthed from, how it is maintained, what is not friendship, and how important friendship is. His insights are very relatable and speak into circumstances that all humans go through or have seen in walking out friendship. Some of it is very hard to hear, other parts are truly a joy to read, but I am thankful for hearing ALL of it. Here are just a few of the beautiful insights:

In speaking of Africanus' death: "If anyone has suffered misfortune, it is myself. But if you let your sorrows at such a happening overwhelm you, this shows how much you love, not your friend, but yourself."

The need for and what friendship is:
"Does the fact that people need friendship mean there is some weakness and deficiency in themselves? If so, this would mean that their main purpose in acquiring friends is to exchange services with another person, that is to say to give and receive benefits which it would be beyond their own individual powers to grant or obtain on their own account. But surely this giving and receiving constitutes only one feature and consequence of friendship. As for its origins, do these not, rather, lie in something altogether more primeval and noble, something emanating more directly from the actual processes of nature? It comes from a feeling of affection, an inclination of the heart."

What friends should not be or expect:
The first opinion is that our feeling for our friends should be identical with our feeling for our own selves.
The second is that our goodwill towards friends should correspond in every respect to their own attitude toward us.
The third point of view is that the value we attach to our friends should be exactly the same as the value they attach to themselves.

"The people who merit your friendship are those who genuinely possess some characteristic capable of inspiring devotion. Such men are rare—for of course it is the hardest thing in the world to find anything, in any field, that is altogether perfect of its kind."

"Unfortunately, however, there is also a good deal of truth in what my friend Terence said in his Woman of Andros: 'Flattery gets us friends, but truth earns ill-will.' Certainly truth of that kind can be very disagreeable, since it does indeed produce ill-will, and ill-will is what poisons friendships. But flattery, is, in fact, much the more tiresome disadvantage of the two, because while it indulges a friend's misdeeds it is also contributing to his ruin. And most culpable of all is the friend who spurns the truth and allows flattery to seduce him into doing wrong."

This last quote is both the most true and hardest of the lot to hear. Many of the friendships I have today, I have indulged and flattered to stay friends, other friendships have or nearly have ended because I chose not to flatter. (Some of it may be my blunt Northern side coming through.) In the former, I am culpable, but in the latter, in some ways I have decided after those outcomes to stay away from friendship. I don't want to spoil the book, but Cicero makes some great points on how great a human's need is for friendship, despite the hardship that comes with maintaining it. Cicero falls back on the great truth of Scripture: love. Friendship springs from love, is maintained by love, bears one another's burdens in love, and remains because of love. Not everyone will bare one another's souls to each other or be best buds, but hostility is unacceptable. There are to be good men in good communion with each other, God, and nature. Even in its weightiness, I cannot help but love Cicero, thank God for his insights, and pray that the truths in his text would come to fruition in my life.

1 Samuel 10

Most people know this chapter as the one where Samuel anoints Saul and he becomes king. But there are so many strange elements wrapped up in just this one chapter. Samuel does take a flask of oil and pour it on Saul's head, but he has to reassure Saul and tells hims that he will see signs which will confirm that he will be king. The signs are: "You will meet two men by Rachel's tomb, and they will say the donkeys that you went to seek are found, and now your father has ceased to care about the donkeys and is anxious about you saying, 'What shall I do about my son?'" That's sign number one. Why Rachel's tomb? And who are these two men? I've never heard a preacher address that before.

Then sign number two: "You will come to the oak of Tabor. Three men going up to God at Bethel will meet you there, one carrying three young goats, another carrying three loaves of bread, and another carrying a skin of wine. And they will greet you and give you two loaves of bread which you will accept from their hand." What?! What do these three things symbolize and why do they only give Saul two loaves instead of three? There has to be a message in here somewhere.

Sign number three: "As soon as you come to the city (Gibeath-elohim:the hill of God) you will meet a group of prophets coming down from the high place with harp, tambourine, flute, and lyre before them, prophesying. Then the Spirit of the Lord will rush upon you and you will prophesy with them and be turned into another man." Again, what is the significance of Saul prophesying? God gives him a new heart—is that a heart conversion? I need to get a commentary.

As if this chapter weren't already hard to understand, at the very end of the chapter, when Saul is appointed king, it says, "Saul also went to his home at Gibeah, and with him went men of valor whose hearts God had touched. But some worthless fellows said, 'How can this man save us?' And they despised him and brought him no present. But he held his peace." First, God touched the hearts of the men of valor in the Old Testament. Many people put so much emphasis on the Old Testament being a book of Law, but here it is clear that it's not just law, but people's hearts are involved. Second, Saul was essentially mocked even as a chosen king, but he "held his peace." This seems so similar to the story of Christ at the crucifixion. Both named kings, mocked, and held their peace. Maybe I can't draw an exact connection but that is pretty darn cool.

Look how much is packed into just one chapter in the Old Testament! If so much is packed into a tiny sliver of the Old Testament, how much more is there to glean from the rest of the Old Testament. The pastors and Christians of our era put so much emphasis on the New Testament as the source of all wisdom, but we are missing a vital piece of history and God's pattern of redemption if we do not equally study the Old Testament. The stories in the Old Testament really stuck out to me when I was little, that alone as a remembering factor and the fact that it allows children to see a pattern of redemption and sovereignty is truly amazing.

Priest Lake

Sunset over Priest Lake, ID. Little piece of heaven